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    Wednesday, April 28, 2010

    All God's children this Sunday


    Subject: Two professors share thinking on LGBT issues & faith this Sunday in  AGC

    This coming Sunday, May 2, our last regular meeting of the academic year, Carol Blessing and Jacque Mitchell, professors of literature and Spanish, respectively, will share their thinking about LGBT issues as they intersect with their disciplinary studies and their life experience.

    I hope students in particular will consider attending this last meeting of 2009-2010, marking the end of our third academic year of programming.

    Won't you bring a friend who would appreciate hearing such a presentation and the Q&A that will follow?

    Upcoming AGC Programming:

    • AGC Summer Break runs through the remainder of May, June, July and August
    • First AGC Meeting of the Fall: Sunday, September 12
    ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
    All God's Children at First Nazarene (AGC) meets almost weekly (except during some university breaks) Sundays, 2:30-4:30, at San Diego First Church of the Nazarene, 3901 Lomaland Dr., Ellipse building, main level, Bowes Conference Room. All are welcomed. Sessions are dedicated to an open discussion of LGBT issues and faith. Participants are asked to respectfully listen to and engage in a variety of contributions to discussion in a spirit of honest inquiry. Moderators ask participants to honor the announced program topic and to be courteous to the speakers.


    Two well-known religious leaders will visit San Diego in the coming weeks of early summer:


    - Retired Anglican bishop in Uganda Chris Ssenyonjo will talk about the pending legislation in the Ugandan Parliament that proposes to criminalize homosexuality, making homosexual practice eligible for the death penalty. ( http://changingattitude-england.blogspot.com/2009/12/bishop-christopher-ssenyonjo-denies.html ) He currently leads Integrity Uganda, a ministry to gay persons in his home nation. He will speak in Linder Hall, First United Methodist Church in Mission Valley, 7:30 PM, Thursday, May 20.

    - Roman Catholic nun Sr. Jeannine Gramick, who was censured by Cardinal Ratzinger's office ( http://www.ourladyswarriors.org/dissent/nugent.htm ) of the Vatican and warned by the senior leadership of her order of the School Sisters of Notre Dame, several years ago moved to the order of the Sisters of Loretto. She has been in ministry in the Roman Catholic Church to gay persons since the 1970s.  ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeannine_Gramick ) . Sr. Gramick will speak at the LGBT Center in Hillcrest on Monday, June 28, at 7:00 in the evening.

    Tuesday, April 27, 2010

    Dine out and Fight HIV/AIDS this Thursday





    Ready, Set, Go! Dining Out for Life® is this Thursday!

    With only three days until fourth annual Dining Out for Life San Diego, we are set for a record turnout for this fabulous event benefitting HIV/AIDS services and prevention programs at The San Diego LGBT Community Center.

    You can make sure that happens by simply going out for breakfast, lunch, dinner, coffee and/or cocktails (or all of the above!) at one of these establishments on Thurs., April 29. Pick from over 100 restaurants in our 2010 Dining Out for Life® San Diego Bar & Restaurant Guide.


    Here are just some of the places San Diegans are headed on Apr. 29:

    The Honorable Toni Atkins will be dining at noon at Saigon on Fifth and she would love to see you there!

    Center Board Member Robert Gleason will be at Brian's American Eatery for breakfast and will be enjoying Ponce's for dinner.

    Ken St. Pierre - SDGLN and 2009 Nikki Award Winner for Outstanding Male Personality - will be dining -- and serving as an ambassador -- at Masala restaurant for dinner.

         

     
     
     


    Getting the Word Out

    The media buzz is growing as Dining Out for Life approaches. In addition to being mentioned on the front page of the Food section of the San Diego Union-Tribune this week, San Diego CityBeat has a special Dining Our for Life Dining Guide in it this week, chef and recipe profiles from Dine Out locations are running on SDGLN and the Gay & Lesbian Times features Dining Out on the cover. Don't forget to pick up copies this week!

    You can check out just a sampling of the buzz on our Facebook page.


     diningoutforlife.com/sandiego

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    Sunday, April 25, 2010

    Meet Lou Engle a dangerous man

    Thought Rick Warren Is Someone To Be Worried About? Meet Lou Engle
     

    GOP's New Prayer Guru Lou Engle Helping Incite Near-Genocidal Antigay Hatred in Uganda

    http://tinyurl.com/324h5fz

    ...On December 31, 2007, at one of his TheCall events in Kansas City, Engle told his audience that one of the names of God was "avenger of blood" and encouraged his audience to worship that aspect of God. Engle stated that decades of legal abortion had incurred a blood debt that must be repaid in blood, and he predicted that legal abortion would cause a second civil war.

    Five months and one year later, in May 2009, Kansas late term abortion doctor George Tiller was shot through the eye and killed, on Sunday in the lobby of his Wichita, KS church. In a March 2009 letter on his personal web site, Engle had suggested Tiller was like an "Auschwitz death camp worker."

    Now Engle is turning his inflammatory rhetoric against Uganda's gay citizens, many of whom are already in hiding.

    Whereas anti-abortion terrorism in the US usually involves solitary acts of violence, Lou Engle's planned anti-gay agitation in Uganda coincides with pending legislation that could harness Uganda's police and judicial system to remove or eliminate an entire segment of Ugandan society.

    Engle's invocation of the Holocaust inadvertently raises the uncomfortable fact that the pending Ugandan Anti Homosexuality Bill is more draconian than analogous legislation passed during the early years of Hitler's Third Reich. German homosexuals were one of the societal groups targeted by Hitler's Nazi regime.

    Lou Engle is a provocateur.  Given Engle's horrific timing it's hard to interpret his planned event as anything but intentional incitement of antigay hatred in Uganda, already at a near-fever pitch...

    t r u t h o u t | Transgender Community in New Orleans Claims Police Harassment

    http://www.truthout.org/transgender-community-new-orleans-claims-police-harassment58844


    Thankyou
    Patti Boman

    Be the change that you want to see in the world
    Ghandi

    Saturday, April 24, 2010

    Fwd: Join us at the next Membership meeting!



    SAME logo
    April/ 2010

    Let's Build a National Movement

    Welcome to San Diego Alliance for Marriage Equality
     
    Hello Patti!  

    Please join us at our next membership meeting Tuesday April 27th! We will be discussing our Equality Across America conference that was held this past Sunday, and also planning actions for Harvey Milk Day on May 22nd! It's time to end the discrimination in employment, housing, immigration, the military, and marriage!
    Agenda for membership meeting April 27th
    • Introductions, with question:  What or who inspired you to become an activist? (20 mins)
    • Report-back & summary of Equality Across America Meeting on Sunday (15 mins)  --Zakiya
    •  Planning our Harvey Milk Day Action for San Diego (1 hour)  --Group discussion
          30 minutes to decide exactly what it is that we will do on Harvey Milk Day.
          30 minutes to discuss strategies for publicity leading up to, during, and after the event.
    • Endorsements (10 Mins)
          SAME will vote to endorse May 1 march for Immigrants' Rights, and will discuss how we will participate.
    • Announcements (10 mins) 
    The Time Is Now!
    Equality Across America Information! 
     
    Equality Across America formed following the National Equality March in October 2009, in which 200,000 people descended on Washington, DC from every corner of the country with scarcely any help from the established Gay-Rights groups. Fed up with the decades-old failed strategy of lobbying "friendly" politicians and high-dollar, politically cowardly campaigns that still fail to beat back right-wing assaults, activists today must demand what is right-full equality in every state, city and town-and build a fighting organization that can win. This meeting is a response to the call to unite the post-Prop 8 generation of activists in the first-ever grassroots, independent and nation-wide LGBT federation in US history. As a first step, EAA Regional Conferences are working on coordinated actions all across the country on Harvey Milk Day. We invite you, your friends, and your organization to participate, endorse this meeting, build this network, and plan San Diego's Harvey Milk Day action!
     
    Links to more information: 
    LGBT Omnibus Bill Proposed?
     
    Have you heard about the Equality & Religious Freedom Act? Conceived by philanthropists Juan Ahonen-Jover and Ken Ahonen-Jover of eQualityGiving, it is an ambitious sweeping bill that will place all of the major civil equality issues before Congress at once, rather than piecemeal. Included in this bill:
     
    A. Equal Employment Opportunity
    B. Fair Housing
    C. Places of Public Accommodation
    D. Use of Public Facilities
    E. Equal Credit Opportunity
    F. Federally Funded Programs or Activities
    G. Education
    H. Disability
    I. Marriage Equality and Religious Freedom
    J. Hate Crimes
    K. Armed Forces
    L. Immigration - Uniting American Families
     
    This draft omnibus LGBT equality bill is intended to serve as a starting point for discussion about what full LGBT equality might look like from a legislative perspective.
    This concept has obviously not been generated from the professional LGBTs (no doubt, because they deem it impractical), but given the queasiness of Congress, even when we do have the majority, why not consider the whole ball of wax and force open debate on each area of equality we have been fighting for?
     
    For more information and to read the draft click on the link below! Also visit Pam's House Blend for more information and to read more of this particular article!
    In This Issue
    Agenda for April 27th Membership Meeting
    Equality Across America Information
    LGBT Omnibus Bill
    SAME in the News!
    Links!
    Join Our Mailing List
    Crowd with Across Banner

    SAME in the NEWS! 

    Links!
     
     
    • Please join our membership meetings the 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the
      Month at a Residential Building on the SE Corner of 4th & Walnut
      (street parking after 6pm is FREE.) Signs at the gate will guide you
      to the meeting space which is UPSTAIRS on the 2nd floor.
    • SAME meetings are open to the public.
    • If you need directions contact Cecile - 858.335.6615.
     
    Join us at our next Membership Meeting! In Numbers there is Strength,
    in Unity there is Hope, and Together we WILL realize our goal of
    EQUALITY!
     
    Joshua Napier
    Membership Coordinator 

    San Diego Alliance of Marriage Equality
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    Friday, April 23, 2010

    Stop THECALL ministries URGENT

    STOP THECALL MINISTRIES FROM FUELING HOMOPHOBIA IN UGANDA THROUGH THEIR MAY 2, 2010, CRUSADE

    22.04.2010


    Sexual Minorities Uganda (SMUG) condemns Lou Engle's upcoming crusade scheduled for May 2, 2010. The crusade could cause incalculable damage, as it is designed to label homosexuality as a "vice" in Uganda and to incite people to "fight" against this "vice" in society. In the context of an already inflamed extremist religious movement against homosexuality in Uganda sparked off by American evangelicals, the inflammatory preaching of Lou Engle and his associates is likely to incite further violence against lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex (LGBTI) people in Uganda.


    Sexual Minorities Uganda calls on all human rights defenders, organizations, religious communities and leaders, governments, and civil society, globally to take action to ensure that Lou Engle and his associates do not set foot in Uganda and that the Call Uganda does not proceed with this inflammatory and hate-inducing plan. While Sexual Minorities Uganda supports freedom of worship, we recognize the need for restriction on any speech that incites hatred and violence against a minority group. If a prayer event is to be held in Uganda, it should be done in a manner which encourages Christ-like love and acceptance and does not incite hatred and violence toward lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex people.

    Background

    Lou Engle's extremist and violence-laden preaching is often laced with references to gay people as being possessed by demons. During a rally for Proposition 8 in California, he called for Christian martyrs. His inflammatory speech and focus on martyrdom can easily incite people in Uganda to disregard people's human rights and go to extreme measures to eliminate whatever they characterize as "evil" or a "vice". For example, Lou Engle preaches, "The most 'dangerous terrorist' is not Islam but God. One of God's names is the avenger of blood. Have you worshiped that God yet?"

    The crusade is organized by TheCall Uganda and ten Ugandan Pentecostal pastors. According to www.thecalluganda.com, the crusade is 'intended to awaken and revive the young and the old, men and women, church and family, government and the public to fight vices eating away our society'. TheCall intends to address homosexuality in Uganda as a what they label a "vice". The crusade is preceded by a 21 day fast.

    Lou Engle is a core founder of TheCALL in the U.S. but has expanded chapters to different countries. Last year, TheCALL sent an American Evangelical, JoAnna Watson of Touching Hearts International, to be based in Uganda full-time to orchestrate this crusade to fight vices like homosexuality.


    This crusade could have the same kind of impact that the March 2009 anti-gay conference had in Uganda. Scott Lively, Caleb Lee Brundidge and Don Schmierer reinforced the desire of some religious leaders to persuade the government to create laws which would eliminate homosexuality from the nation. Eventually, the Anti-Homosexuality Bill was introduced in the Parliament of Uganda by MP's David Bahati and Benson Obua.


    Lou Engle's crusade will be the second major American evangelist event with an anti-homosexuality agenda after the trio to set foot in Uganda and will definitely incite our people into more hatred of homosexuals that may lead to further violence. This is very evident with the nature of preaching that he does in the US. He claims that homosexuals have demons and has mobilized Americans on several occasions for anti –gay rallies. Since the Bill was tabled, the rate of violence and homophobia has increased drastically in Uganda. Lou Engle's inflammatory preaching is likely to exacerbate an already worrying situation
    Actions:


    •Call and/or write Letters of Protest to TheCall Ministries and ask them stop exporting homophobia to Uganda. The event they are organizing is dangerous to LGBTI people in Uganda.


    Contact:
    JoAnna Watson, Coordinator of The Call Uganda
    Email: Joannawatsonthint@yahoo.com
    Phone: +256 779 864 985


    Lou Engle
    Email: response@thecall.com
    Phone: +1 816 285 9351



    •Hold demonstrations and/or marches in Kansas City where Lou Engle's church is located and protest against TheCALL Uganda


    •ASK LOU ENGLE AND THECALL MINISTRY TO:


    1.STOP THECALL UGANDA CRUSADE IN THE FORM THAT IT IS PLANNED


    2.PROMOTE RESPECT FOR HUMAN RIGHTS RATHER THAN INCITING VIOLENCE


    3.STOP EXPORTING HOMOPHOBIA TO AFRICA


    For further information, contact;
    1.Valentine Kalende
    Email: kalendenator@gmail.com
    Tel: +256752324249






    2. Frank Mugisha
    Email:frankmugisha@gmail.com
    Tel:+256772616062
     

     

    Wednesday, April 21, 2010

    letter to news media about Lutheran church





    I am the proud mom of two wonderful sons; my eldest is a Pharmacist and married to a wonderful young woman who is a veterinarian, and my youngest is a working actor with a degree in theater who happens to be gay.

     

    We started off as a church going family, but when my youngest came out at age 23 (3 years ago), we were given the cold shoulder by our then church.  I started calling several churches that were close to our house and by questioning the priest or pastors I would find out that they did not approve of my gay son, and I could not in good conscience attend a church that was so narrow minded and full of judgment.

     

    In my search for a church I did become closer to my God and felt like a veil was lifted from my eyes and I could see and understand his infinite love for human kind (such a hard commandment to follow "Love each other"), I realized that all those years unknowingly I was in a church that was like a clique and was only accepting of people that were exactly like them!

     

    I became an activist for LGBT rights after seeing the kind of crazies out there in the name of God (not my God) causing so much pain to this minority group that my son belongs to and seeing these mega churches getting involved in politics (proposition 8 marriage equality issue in California), Catholic, Mormon, fundamentalist churches, Focus on Family, crazy Fred Phelps group, 700 club, Rick Warren, locally The Rock church, Skyline, etc. I am one of PFLAG San Diego's co Presidents and we support our children and others that may not have their family support, we show up at rallies and we write letters to news publications in hopes that they will publish our letters.

     

    The huge fact that the Lutheran church in America has become an open and affirming church is huge and a step in the right direction (God's direction) but I'm appalled at the lack of dissemination this has had in the news media, I don't understand it!  This is a large church body and they have finally understood what they are supposed to stand for and I am forever grateful that they have; now we need the others to open their eyes and follow in their foot steps.  Remember when the churches one by one started accepting that it was not ok to have slaves and apologized for their stance in that, as well as mixed race marriages.  I do hope that in my lifetime this will happen to all churches, they have pushed out so many good people (and their families) out of their churches because of their hard headed stand on the LGBT issues.  I for one am looking for a local Lutheran church that I can attend!!

     

    Patti Boman

    A PFLAG Mom

    Parents Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays

     

     

    Tuesday, April 20, 2010

    Please help get the word out -- Post and distribute to all students and consider attending this event.

    First Lavender Graduation at SDSU
    For all LGBTQ students and their guests

    Tuesday May 11, 2010
    3:00 - 5:00pm
    Scripps Cottage, SDSU

    See attached flyer for details and RSVP information

    (We apologize for double postings)


    Esther D. Rothblum, Ph.D.
    Professor of Women's Studies
    San Diego State University
    5500 Campanile Drive
    Mail Code 6030
    San Diego, CA 92182
    619-594-6662
    619-594-5218 (fax)
    erothblu@mail.sdsu.edu
    website:
    <http://www-rohan.sdsu.edu/~rothblum/
    journal website: www.informaworld.com/wjls
     
    Thank you,
    Patti Boman
     

    Fwd: Lutherans embrace sexual minorities


    Isn't this wonderful news! 
    Finally two steps forward.
     
    Thankyou
    Patti Boman

    Be the change that you want to see in the world
    Ghandi


    Subject: Lutherans embrace sexual minorities



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    The Lutheran Church Embraces the LGBT Community

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rev-dr-cindi-love/the-lutheran-church-embra_b_543142.html

    George Bernard Shaw once said, "Certainly all great truths begin as blasphemies." On April 11, 2010, those who identify as people of faith and as "non-heterosexual" were given particular cause to celebrate Shaw's wisdom: a most unlikely church has given a most unlikely people a gift of love and truth, and I cannot stop smiling.

    After twenty-five years of deliberation, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) Church Council has abolished its anti-gay policies, effective immediately. Following from discussions at the ELCA Churchwide Assembly last summer, the ELCA will now allow people in same-sex relationships to serve as rostered leaders. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) human beings are no longer considered abominations but blessed church members with full standing. Same-sex partners and families can now fully participate in the ELCA Pension Plan.

    Best of all, the ELCA is reinstating people who were removed from ministry positions because they were truthful and came out of the closet, as well as those who conducted holy unions for non-heterosexual couples. The ELCA has practiced restorative justice.

    The Lutherans -- breaking from Garrison Keillor stereotypes as shy, retiring, or stoic -- said, "Just do it!" All votes passed overwhelmingly, with no votes against and no drawn-out hassles about how to implement the policies.

    I'm particularly grateful to the ELCA for adding restoration to its reforms. My colleague, Rev. Paul W. Egerston, faithfully pastored and served as Bishop in the Lutheran church for 31 years. He resigned one month before the end of his term in 2001. Why? He ordained a lesbian as a Pastor and took a public stand for justice in opposition to the official anti-gay policy of the ELCA. Now, Paul and his wife, Shirley, and their six children, 12 grandchildren and two great-grandchildren can take a day off. I believe that through the ELCA's restoration, God has sent them a message, "Well done, my good and faithful servants."

    Thursday, April 15, 2010

    Monday April 19 3-7:30 Activists needed

    DOD FED GLOBE has invited you to the event 'ACTIVIST CALL TO DUTY' on DOD FED GLOBE!
     
    GetEQUAL considers this a very important event to bring attention to Repeal DADT. DOD FED GLOBE is assisting.

    ACTIVIST CALL TO DUTY Time: April 19, 2010 from 3pm to 7:30pm
    Location: 3PM California Science Center Wallis Annenberg Bldg & 6PM Natural History Museum
    Organized By: GetEQUAL and DOD FED GLOBE is assisting

    Event Description:
    GetEQUAL

    President Obama is AWOL on our issues.
    ACTIVIST CALL TO DUTY
    TIME TO RALLY THE TROOPS
    TO DEMAND THE PRESIDENT IMMEDIATELY
    PLACE REPEAL LANGUAGE IN HIS
    DEFENSE AUTHORIZATION BUDGET AND PUBLICLY
    STATE THAT DADT WILL BE REPEALED THIS YEAR.
    REPORT TO: BOXER/OBAMA FUNDRAISER PROTEST
    DATE: MONDAY, APRIL 19
    3:30 PM
    California Science Center
    Wallis Annenberg Bldg
    Exposition Park, 39th St.
    & Figueroa St, LA, CA
    6:00 PM
    Natural History Museum
    900 Exposition Blvd,
    LA, CA
    and
    TEXT THE WORD DADT TO 30644 TO SIGN UP FOR MOBILE UPDATES


    See more details and RSVP on DOD FED GLOBE:
    http://dodfedglobe.ning.com/events/activist-call-to-duty
     

    Tuesday, April 13, 2010

    Fw: New PFLAG Newsletter



    Our April newsletter is now online at: http://pflag.com/pdf/pf_news_current.pdf

    Our general meeting in Mission Valley will be held on Monday, April 26th. Come join us to hear Abby Schwartz, Coordinator of the Womens Resource Center and Senior Services at the LGBT Center. She is also the coordinator of Women's Fest 2010: Strength in Diversity.

    See inside newsletter for other support groups throughout the county.

    Fw: Laramie Project at Castle Park HS! GSA night Weds, 4/21



    ----- Forwarded Message ----
    From: Nikki Eddy <nikkieddy@yahoo.com>


    Hi Guys,
    Could you please pass this info on to every GSA in San Diego? We would love for all GSAs, PFLAG members, and LGBTQ folks in general to come down to CPHS on April 21st to watch our drama department's play, 'The Laramie Project."  GSA members will get a discounted ticket price of $5.00, and it is $7.00 for adults. This is a really big deal to have this play in the South Bay, so everyone's support would be much appreciated! I'll also let you know if protesters decide to come, so we can counter! :)  Hope you are well! :)
    Thanks,
    n

    "Only the educated are free" ---Epictetus

    Monday, April 12, 2010

    Fwd: PFLAG...this coming Tuesday




    If anyone knows of a real estate company, community theater, any other church or bussiness that could help please copy and post on your pages. 

    We need a small meeting room in Rancho Bernardo once a month that will do so much good for so many people. 

    Help!

    Thankyou
    Patti Boman

    Be the change that you want to see in the world
       
    Reply-To: <suenern@san.rr.com> 

    Dear Everybody,

    This coming Tuesday, MAY be the the last meeting of our "PFLAG No.County
    Inland Group". We've been so successful, thanks to you, in giving your trust
    and allowing us to share in your lives. We're here to support and educate
    you during a difficult time for a member of your family, or person you know
    who is "in trouble" and in some cases it's about you and the heartache in
    possibly losing friends/family.  

    Our hearts have gone out to you and we've been there to help you and others,
    to be comfortable with the subject and to learn how to handle the issue of
    "homosexuality". Weve shared our stories openly and (many times...) with a
    hug and a box of tissues, you've shared back and we've talked ..., openly.

    We are in desperate need..... Our PFLAG group is losing our meeting room.
    The San Diego Nat'l Bank (which has been wonderful!) was merged into US Bank
    branch, located across the street, on Bernardo Center Dr.. We immediately
    approached them for a meeting room....but they said that they had none!  

    Anyway, the library closes too early, the meeting rooms in the new wing of
    Pomerado Hospital are not available in the evening, the local "club houses"
    aren't private....... and due to our "crazy" situation, with Ernie being
    hospitalized twice already this year and us trying to rebuild our home, etc.
    after the fire.....
    we just haven't been able to do our best at knocking on doors.

    We hope to stay in RB, because it's centralized and easy to get to.....we
    have to find a location that can be open to us one evening a month, provides
    privacy...and is free (we are a non-profit organization).  

    We hope you'll continue to support your membership in PFLAG, so that you can
    "be there" for others.......I hope we'll find a location  quickly, (anybody
    know the hotel business??? Maybe we can use one of their meeting rooms!!!)
    but if not, you'll still be getting a note from us monthly.....and we're
    only a phone call away: (858)673-4560

    Take care....and we'll see you on Tuesday -

    Sue & Ernie



    Thursday, April 8, 2010

    Ugly Betty "PFLAG mention" Episode

    Good morning!For anyone who missed Ugly Betty last night, PFLAG was definitely mentioned -- and a few of our publications and stickers shown -- in the episode about Justin coming out.

    You can watch the episode online for free. Go here to get started:

    The whole storyline is worth watching...but if you want to go right to the part where PFLAG is mentioned, it starts around the 19-minute mark.

    Wednesday, April 7, 2010

    Constance sent to 'fake prom' because she wanted to take her girlfriend

    You're never going to believe this story.

    First this Mississippi school board canceled prom because a senior girl wanted to take her girlfriend. Then they organized a 'fake' prom (five students attended), while the rest of the students went to a secret prom organized by parents.

    I just signed a petition to stand with Constance -- and condemn the school board's failure to treat its students with the respect and fairness everyone deserves.

    It's got to be pretty lonely to be in Constance's shoes. She didn't set out to start a fight in the courts or in the media. All she wanted to do was go to prom.

    Join me in letting Constance know we're supporting her.

    Thanks!

    To take action on this issue, click here

    Sunday, April 4, 2010

    Former Ex-Gay Leaders Apologize



    Michael Busse (co-founder of Exodus), Darlene Bogle (a former Exodus ministries leader), and Jeremy Marks (former Exodus International and head of Courage UK) issue a public and formal apology for their work as ex-gay leaders and the harm they caused to those they tried to help.

    They joined Beyond Ex-Gay and Soulforce at an Ex-Gay Survivors Conference at UC-Irvine later that week.

    Thursday, April 1, 2010

    Letter complaint to Virginia’s governor

    One of Virginia Governor Bob McDonnell's first actions as governor was to cancel an order that prevented state employees who were gay or lesbian from being fired from their job on the basis of their sexual orientation. Now, gays and lesbians in Virginia can be fired solely on the basis of their sexual orientation.
    This is unacceptable. As the Co-President of PFLAG San Diego ( pflag.com ) I speak for many San Diego families who know, personally, that sexual orientation and gender identity have absolutely nothing to do with one's ability to do a job well.
    Actions, like Gov. McDonnell's, threaten the employment of Virginia's LGBT population, are a deplorable step backwards and place the State squarely on the wrong side of history. Virginia runs the risk of losing well-qualified employees, not to mention earning a reputation as a state with truly hostile policies.
    When, I must ask you to consider, WHEN has codified discrimination EVER withstood the test of time? When have its practitioners EVER been viewed as anything but embarrassing historical examples of behaviors we must NEVER allow to be repeated?
    California has moved decisively and inclusively in the opposite direction. All our families, businesses and communities can hold their heads high, knowing we are a just and fair place to live and work.
    Simply put, there's no reason to fire people solely on the basis of their sexual orientation. It's time for Virginia to recognize that, just as California has, and act to make sure firing someone because they are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender is NOT part of your legislative legacy.
    Yours in true Justice and Equality for all;
    Patti Boman Co-President
    PFLAG San Diego
    Pflag.com

    An Ally's Promise by Anthony J. D’Angelo

    An Ally's Promise by Anthony J. D’Angelo
    I believe
    I believe success is the freedom to be yourself.
    I believe nobody is wrong they are only different.
    I believe your circumstances don’t define you,
    rather they reveal you.
    I believe without a sense of caring,
    there can be no sense of community.
    I believe our minds are like parachutes.
    They only work if they are open.
    I believe we only live life once,
    but if we live it right, one time is all we’ll need.
    I believe we must first get along with ourselves
    before we can get along with others.

    I will
    I will seek to understand you.
    I will label bottles, not people.
    I will grow antennas not horns.
    I will see the diversity of our commonality.
    I will see the commonality of our diversity.
    I will get to know who you are rather than what you are.
    I will transcend political correctness
    and strive for human righteousness.

    I challenge you
    I challenge you to honor who you are.
    I challenge you to enjoy your life rather then endure it.
    I challenge you to create the status quo rather than accept it.
    I challenge you to live in your imagination
    more than your memory.
    I challenge you to live your life as a revolution
    and not just a process of evolution.
    I challenge you to ignore other people’s ignorance
    so that you may discover your own wisdom.

    I promise you
    I promise to do my part.
    I promise to stand beside you.
    I promise to interrupt the world
    when its thinking becomes ignorant.
    I promise to believe in you,
    even when you have lost faith in yourself.
    I am here for you.

    Patricia Clakson speech for Gay Rights

    Patricia Clakson speech for Gay Rights
    Here's the text of a speech I wrote with my friend Ron Marasco for the Human Rights Campaign's recent gala in New Orleans. The clip of it is below. Enjoy!
    I am so happy to be with all of you tonight. To celebrate the work you do--and to have a bourbon or two later.
    The great Tennessee Williams wrote---
    --of course I'm starting with Tennessee Williams. I'm in New Orleans, at the HRC gala, and I played Blanche DuBois.
    Which is why I never go anywhere without a paper lantern in my purse.
    Tennessee Williams wrote a line that I felt was appropriate for tonight. And appropriate to this time in our history, your history, and to the rights that everyone in this room is fighting for. It is a line that meant so much to him, it's on his gravestone.
    "The violets in the mountains have broken the rocks."
    "The violets in the mountains have broken the rocks."
    To me, its meaning is simple. The hard, the cold, the oppressive will--at long last--be broken apart by a force that is beautiful, natural, colorful, alive.
    That's what tonight is about, what the people in this room are about. We're a bunch of violets breaking through the rocks.
    And it is happening.
    The rock is cracking away. The rock of hate and falsehood is being broken apart.
    All across this country, regular Americans who were born and bred in towns where a gay couple wouldn't dare walk down a street--all over these American Main Streets--something is changing.
    Blue-collar guys are looking up from their work, grandmothers are speaking up at the dinner table; and they are saying something to members of their family, and co-workers, who are against gay marriage.
    They are saying in one, increasingly-loud American voice, "Honey, rather than worry about who someone else loves--and why, think about who you hate--and why!"
    The violets are breaking through the rocks.
    America has always been a country of common sense. A country of innate goodness--although a goodness that is sometimes slow to action. As Winston Churchill said, "Americans are always ready to do the right thing. After they have exhausted all the other possibilities."
    We have exhausted all the other possibilities. And it is time to call an injustice an injustice.
    It is an injustice that we send a gay or lesbian soldier to die in a war--to give their life for a country that won't let them be legally bound to the person they love.

    It is an injustice that a soldier gives their life for a Military--an exemplary Military in every way--except one in which they cannot have the picture of their lover cut-out in the shape of a heart and taped to their locker because that would be "telling." Such a ugly word.
    It is an injustice that, in this room, many of you pay your tax money to the very public institutions that deny you rights other Americans enjoy; pay your tax money for public schools that will not accept you as legal parents; pay your tax money for the paper on which they print the goddamn marriage licenses you cannot get.
    And while you are paying your tax money for all of the above, a preacher can stand in the pulpit of a multi-million-dollar mega-church advocating the damnation of gay Americans and not pay one thin dime in taxes.
    You know, I occasionally watch those preachers on the Christian TV stations.
    I always think to myself: How can I believe your theology when I can't believe your hair?
    I find it intellectually offensive when people shrink the Bible to fit the small-mindedness of their bigotry.
    Leviticus 18:22 and Deuteronomy 22:5...the famous list of the "abominations." Bible verses which, by the way, also list as a mortal sin things like "the wearing of a garment made of two different kinds of fabric."
    Yes, the Bible verse they use to condemn homosexuality also calls Polyester-blend an abomination.
    Well, in this, perhaps the Lord has a point. But if you took away all the Polyester-blends in those mega-churches....most of the women would be naked.
    In my Bible I see no evidence of Jesus telling same-sex couples they cannot love each other.
    And he could have. He was a carpenter--if he made good furniture every gay man in Nazareth knew Him.
    The fact is: it's happening.
    All the violets--gay Americans, lesbian Americans, Bi-sexual Americans, transgender Americans, people of color, and the people of this city forgotten by Washington in hurricane Katrina--we are all are starting to break through the mountain of straight, white, male lawmakers in Washington.
    Their time is over. And they know it. Which is why they are looking increasingly ridiculous and beleaguered. To me those guys look like one, big casting-call for the lead role in a very bad production of Death of Salesmen.
    Because America is starting to say those lawmakers are wrong about "Don't ask don't tell," and wrong to oppose gay marriage. The way they were wrong, wrong, wrong about the war in Iraq.
    A war that was created by who? A straight, white man named George W. Bush. A straight, white man named Dick Cheney. And a straight, white man named Condoleezza Rice.
    The rocks are breaking. And it's time to call certain people on the hypocrisy of their stance against gay marriage.
    Newt Gingrich: against gay marriage, but on his third wife.
    That recent convert to an anti gay-marriage stance, Rudy Giuliani: third wife. Rush Limbaugh: vehemently against gay marriage and....yep, third wife. A third wedding that was performed by none other than Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas. Clarence Thomas: second wife.
    4 men, eleven marriages, and you must be lectured on love by them? This Mount Rushmore of Divorce!
    Ladies and gentlemen, as all of you in this room know so well, political activism tells us now what history will tell us later.
    The people who support "don't ask don't tell;" and who oppose "gay marriage" are wrong. And their children and grandchildren will know they were wrong.
    This is the age of Obama. And the people who oppose these causes need to realize that. But there is someone else who needs to realize that this is the Age of Obama.
    Obama.
    It is time, Mr. President. Do not fall behind others on these issues. My God, Dick Cheney announced that he is in favor of gay marriage.
    And on that very day, the National Weather Service reported hell froze over.
    So Mr. President, please catch up. Or you are in danger of being considered "just to the right" of a man who is "just to the left" of Vlad-the-Impaler.
    Newsweek magazine just said about gay marriage--and I quote: "This train's left the station. Time to get on board."
    It is happening.
    Something is changing.
    Oh--there is still a lot of work to be done. But it will happen.
    And when it does--when "Don't ask don't tell" is scrapped, when gay men and women can marry the people they love--when that day comes, people across this great land will be looking for a place to party.
    And I say: Come on down to New Orleans! I'll be so happy I might swing naked in a window on Bourbon Street!
    Me and Rachel Maddow!
    Yes, across America we will celebrate because, at long last, that day will have arrived. But to the people in this room--that day will not only have arrived for you, it will have arrived because of you.
    Thank you HRC. Here's to the violets.